STRESS!!!!!!!!

**theworm**[$] · #1 08-23-2004, 03:42 PM

We all deal with stress in our lives. Balancing our many obligations, work stress, family stress, situational stress - we all have too much from time to time, and, I know from experience, it can cause havoc in our lives and make us unhealthy. I've heard so many cliches and so much advice about dealing with stress, and truth be told, a lot of it is helpful.

This webpage talks about stress, what it is, and how to live with it. Read it, and when you feel stressed, breathe deeply, sit back and relax, share your feelings with your good friends (like us at EA) and feel better.

**thinkerlady**[$] · #2 08-23-2004, 04:36 PM

It sure would be nice to eliminate stress from our lives. But that is impossible. I guess we all need to find the way that we can allievate some of it each day. For me, I had a very stressful job. It was bad, last year I changed jobs, and have reduced the stress in my life big time. I am still teaching the same grade, just in a different school, under different administrators. Big difference.

The other thing I had to realize is that I cannot control everything. Sometimes, there are things that will happen, and I have no control over that. I just have to deal with it. Easier said than done, but I am working towared accepting this.

Now, if I could only learn how to not let my mother get to me..............

**mjfrombuffalo**[$] · #3 08-23-2004, 05:08 PM

I was stressed last week with Hubby's surgery. So here's my first day back at work and I should be relaxed, but I've got a post-stress migraine instead. Yay.

*emeleel* · #4 08-23-2004, 05:24 PM

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Now, if I could only learn how to not let my mother get to me..............

I got back last night from spending a whole weekend with MY mother. 'Nuff said.

murasaki · #5 08-23-2004, 07:19 PM

I can't believe that I actually talked to my mother on the phone for 40 minutes the other night. Usually, she's driving me crazy after five minutes.

I am rather surprised at myself that I don't get that stressed when Rory cries. I know that babies reflect the emotions they feel from others so I've tried very hard to feel calm when she's upset and I don't know why she's crying. I also try to sometimes just let her cry when it's obvious nothing is wrong (she's fed, dry, warm, cuddled, etc.), which, as my pediatrician says, is like exercise for her. So far, parenthood hasn't been that stressful for me, but I also have a very willing husband who does a lot with the baby.

**jgibson2**[$] · #6 08-23-2004, 08:39 PM

Crying babies don't much bother me. It's when they DON'T and should that I get stressed.

**lynnzop**[$] · #7 08-24-2004, 12:01 AM

Well, crying babies stress me out. That's why I didn't have any more.

My stress almost always manefests itself in physical tightness in my back and right shoulder blade. In fact today, I was under a lot of pressure at work and I could feel it tighten up.

Left work, felt better. Amazing.

For me, the absolute best stress reliever is to walk or run. When I lost a ton of weight, it was because I'd walk until my back didn't hurt. Many a day it would take 3-4 miles. Then I'd have to turn around walk back home.

Worked great until I'd go back to work the next day.

Magick1 · #8 08-24-2004, 10:47 AM

I need to find some stress releasers...thanks for the link.

I am still considering options for other job offers, but knowing I have a job is a bit of a relief.

My husband needs to be taken out back and thumped around a bit. Right now, I am feeding off of all of his stress from him hating his job and even baby girl is picking up on it. Last night, she had a 2 - 10 death grip on my shirt because I said, "honey, go to daddy so he can change your diaper, momma's gotta go downstairs for a minute".

I thought she was going to climb "through" me to stay away from daddy. That has NEVER happened. He's been terribly, terribly frustrated, and rightfully so, about crap going down at work and I cannot blame him a bit, but I am tired of being the "release" valve. He can spout off to me about work, but then get over it, don't carry it around like a 400 pound weight on your shoulders...leave it at the doorway, enjoy the beautiful family time and then go to work and let it bug you there. That's my side of it.

What with his stress, my stress about starting a new job, whatever it may be, and having to learn something new and exciting and dealing with a toddler that is going through the terrible two's way too early, etc, I have not been feeling 100% and that annoys me, which is a terrible cycle!