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12-24-2002, 11:07 AM
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On a cold Wisconsin Friday night (last Friday, and yes, it was snowing and cold), I signed the paperwork to officially become godfather to Michelle's godson, Cory. He's 11 years old. 
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12-24-2002, 11:08 AM
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Congrats.
But paperwork? For what? |
12-24-2002, 11:10 AM
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Quote: Originally posted by magenta321
Congrats.
But paperwork? For what? | Shrug... not too sure on that. I signed his Baptismal Certificate in the area that stated I was to be his godfather. I'm not sure why that was necessary, but it was something that I wanted to do. |
12-24-2002, 11:12 AM
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Well Congrats! :applause: |
12-24-2002, 11:22 AM
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Quote: Originally posted by magenta321
Well Congrats! :applause: | Thanks! |
12-24-2002, 11:27 AM
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Congrats!
The folks that I know that do the godfather thing agree to raise the child should anything happen to the parents. Is that your agreement? |
12-24-2002, 11:47 AM
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That's one part of it, the other is to ensure that Cory has what he needs in life to flourish. |
12-24-2002, 09:28 PM
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Quote: Originally posted by poseidon
That's one part of it, the other is to ensure that Cory has what he needs in life to flourish. | Don't you also have to agree to raise the child in whatever denomination the parents want him or her raised in? For example, if your godson's family is Catholic, don't you have to agree to raise your godson in the Church if anything happens to Mom and Dad? That's what I understood the specific role of the godparents to be.
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12-24-2002, 09:29 PM
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My church is looser about that - "help raise the child knowing God and Jesus Christ." Doesn't say it has to be the Presbyterian God/JC or the Catholic God/JC or whatever.
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12-24-2002, 11:59 PM
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Now I truly am ...confused...
Why the ecstasy to be a godfather but the deliberate reluctance to be a real father...??
And, no, I am not stating a position on either subject...:-|
...confused...
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12-25-2002, 01:21 AM
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it might have to do with Godchild is 11 years old, probably little chance of having to "raise" said child.
but regardless-Congrats Jeff
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12-25-2002, 02:00 AM
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Being an aunt or a godmother or mommy's-best-friend is great. You can feed the kid junk that they want, lots of candy, have fun with them, and then when they get sick you pass 'em back to mom and dad.
Unless, of course, in those rare cases where (God forbid) something happens to both parents.
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12-25-2002, 10:03 AM
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Quote: Originally posted by mtbat
it might have to do with Godchild is 11 years old, probably little chance of having to "raise" said child.
but regardless-Congrats Jeff | Understood, obviously.
It just seemed (and still does) a little incongruous to me...
And, just as obviously, my congrats also, Jeff.
...confused...
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12-26-2002, 10:24 AM
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Quote: Originally posted by sleeper54
Understood, obviously.
It just seemed (and still does) a little incongruous to me...
And, just as obviously, my congrats also, Jeff.
...confused... | Nope, by age 11 they're pretty much raised on their own. There's no getting up in the middle of the night every ten minutes, no terrible twos, no dealing with seperation anxiety at kindergarten, etc.
Moreover, the chances of something happening to the parents are remote -- yes they exist, and I'm willing to play the odds. If something - God forbid - were to happen, we'd take our responsibility seriously and provide Cory with a loving home and raise him as our own. But frankly, it wouldn't matter whether or not I agreed to become his godfather because Michelle has been his godmother since Cory's birth.
And from what I understand, all we have to do is raise him in a Christian home. |
12-26-2002, 11:15 AM
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Quote: Originally posted by poseidon
Nope, by age 11 they're pretty much raised on their own. There's no getting up in the middle of the night every ten minutes, no terrible twos, no dealing with seperation anxiety at kindergarten, etc. | LOL, Jeff. One of the few ways that parents get through the teenage years is their memories of that angelic infant, adorable toddler, etc. If kids started out as teenagers, the world population problem would be solved in one generation.
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12-26-2002, 11:25 AM
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Quote: Originally posted by conradd
(snip) If kids started out as teenagers, the world population problem would be solved in one generation.
Deb | Wait a minute - I thought that the world population problem would be solved in one generation if men gave birth. 
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12-26-2002, 01:19 PM
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Ya know- Deb you are right. No time like Christmas to remember. And at Christmas time, it seems all those memories return. Our two were sitting, together on the top step yesterday morning. As youngsters they always had to wait for "Daddy" to go downstairs and check if Santa had left. (In reality he was turning on the camera!!) They still wait on the top step until we are all ready to go downstairs. We never told them they had to continue this!!
While I think I understand your reasoning Jeff, and I don't want to get into an "I agree" or "I disagree" argument with you, I just needed to share what is such a fulfilling moment for me as a person--to see my children so excited and happy and knowing that I gave them the gift of life. And to me that is the greatest gift. I can understand not wanting to deal with the aggrivating parts of infance and toddlerhood, and I can also respect medical reasons to not have children, and I can also respect just plain not wanting to have them.
I am godmother to 4 children. I think the best support a godparent can give is to stand on the sidelines. It is a terrific responsibility!! But a fun one. One of my deepest pleasures is knowing I can give my godchild something special, and "Mommy" won't say "NO". Right Amy?????
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12-26-2002, 01:35 PM
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no dealing with seperation anxiety at kindergarten
| I assume you mean the spearation anxiety the parent feels, considering that my son jumped on the bus the first day and nevr even looked back 
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12-26-2002, 01:36 PM
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Oh, congrats by the way! LOL
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12-26-2002, 02:58 PM
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Quote: Originally posted by cristina1
I assume you mean the spearation anxiety the parent feels, considering that my son jumped on the bus the first day and nevr even looked back | LOL yeah that and the screaming little kid who forces the school to call you back from work to come pick him/her up.
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who was one of them. |
12-26-2002, 10:12 PM
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Quote: Originally posted by cristina1
I assume you mean the spearation anxiety the parent feels, considering that my son jumped on the bus the first day and nevr even looked back | I remember my son's first day of preschool. He walked in, never turned around and waved at me. I wanted to help him with his jacket--he told me not to bother. Not a teardrop from him, just a wave! I was the only mom that didn't go into the classroom. One of the other moms eventually came out, and we chatted briefly in the hallway. As it turned out, our sons became best friends.
Cristina--you gave him a lot of self confidence. And, as my son told me, "it was finally his turn".
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12-26-2002, 11:20 PM
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LOL yeah that and the screaming little kid who forces the school to call you back from work to come pick him/her up.
| OK - if I was called to the school I would have been so excited to know he actually missed me. I was so heartbroken that he just went without wavering. Of course I was proud, too. Quote: |
remember my son's first day of preschool. He walked in, never turned around and waved at me. I wanted to help him with his jacket--he told me not to bother. Not a teardrop from him, just a wave! I was the only mom that didn't go into the classroom. One of the other moms eventually came out, and we chatted briefly in the hallway. As it turned out, our sons became best friends.
| I did go in the classroom for preschool. Preschool was easy though because it was only two hours. Kindergarten was all day long. He went on the bus the first day, and we ran over to the school to watch them get off the bus. Then we went to his classroom and took some pictures. He looked at me and exclaimed, "Mom! This is embarrassing! Get out of here!" Um, ok. After seven hours he came bouncing off the bus screaming, "Mom! Can I go to Lexi's house?" 
But thanks. I heard it is the self-confidence that allows a child to go like that. I sure hope so! lol
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