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09-20-2008, 03:50 PM
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I found out that someone I know in a professional capacity has a mail-order bride 
What do you think of this? Do you know anyone who had a mail order bride?
I think the process takes away all the romance, I worry that many mail order brides could be slaves or concubines, and I worry they will get abused. Plus, the idea of paying for a bride seems to me like selling human beings. I'm shocked, quite honestly. What do you all think? |
09-20-2008, 04:53 PM
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I've got an Indian friend whose parents arranged his marriage and I think money changed hands in one way or the other, but not quite mail-order. I think it's weird.
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09-20-2008, 06:30 PM
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Once upon a time I gave some consideration to it. After two failed marriages and all the BS in the dating scene it looked rather attractive. Then Tracy came along.  |
09-20-2008, 06:53 PM
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I already have all the bride I can handle.
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09-20-2008, 06:54 PM
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Make that more bride than I can handle. |
09-20-2008, 08:53 PM
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I'm a male ordered bride. 
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09-20-2008, 09:00 PM
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So now I'll address your question seriously, Margaret.
I do know someone who's brother has a mail order bride. I think it's odd, but different cultures have different levels of acceptance and methods of arranging marriage. If both parties are consensual, of age, and free to marry, I see nothing wrong with it.
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09-20-2008, 09:11 PM
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Quote: lynnzop said
 I'm a male ordered bride. | My male tried to order me once. Didn't work out so well for him. 
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09-20-2008, 09:25 PM
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I didn't say I followed those orders. 
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09-20-2008, 11:02 PM
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Margaret - I don't think I can give a clear answer to your question. I think that for some people it's probably fine, for other's it's probably really creepy. I wouldn't want to form an opinion based solely on the "mail-ordered" part.
Look at the couple, look at their relationship, and form your opinion based on how they treat each other and how they relate more than on how they met. |
09-20-2008, 11:07 PM
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I'm a bride that orders the male. If that makes any sense!!
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09-21-2008, 09:53 AM
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So much for the sanctity of marriage. |
09-22-2008, 07:16 AM
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It depends what TYPE of mail-order bride. Like (mj? pre-caffeine here) said, arranged marriages are still very common in some cultures. I once had someone tell me to get my resume together if I wanted to find a spouse. PhD, professional, and thought nothing amiss of getting his wife that way. He got a bunch of resumes and pictures, picked a couple to meet, and then chose the one he wanted. No muss, no fuss.
Of course, I was all :O but that's not my culture.
Then again, if it's a possibly underaged girl from say, some Asian country with a history of selling girls into prostitution, my hackles might raise a bit. | |
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