réspondez, s'il vous plaît

[CurtisEdmonds]

If you are sent a wedding invitation, and that invitation arrives well before the wedding date, and there is a nice little card with the invitation for you to RSVP, and the card has a date on there that says when the couple needs the RSVP by, and the couple has taken the trouble to include a pre-printed envelope, and the trouble to stick a stamp on there (which they paid for), and you have six weeks to return said RSVP, in a country that has door-to-door mail service six days a week, don't you think that, maybe, it wouldn't be so much of a wrench -- too terribly painful -- to, you know, actually take ten seconds of your time to actually return the card?

And, if, say, that invitation is from (let's say) a family member, wouldn't it, you know, make it that much of an easier proposition to return the (very beautifully printed) RSVP card?

And when you get pestered by the couple to return said RSVPs, shouldn't you have something more classy to say than, "Oh, yeah, I forgot."

Not that this is a big deal or anything.

[thinkerlady[$]]

Uh oh. Sounds like it is that time. We had the same problem when we got married.

People are just careless. They presume you know what they are thinking. It is particularly annoying when it is a family member.

[ms_n]

I ferget. No, really, I forgot what it was like. I only remember being thankful for the new peel-and-stick stamps. Gettin' close to hitchin' time. Congrats.

[pippadaisy[$]]

Sorry. Just wait until some of those same folks don't show. Or call you the day before the wedding to say "Oh, I'm bringing the kids."

[wivabef]

Yeah, my wedding reception went from 80 to 65 in 3 days before the wedding.

I unfortunately had a lot of friends who worked on the Hill in major support positions and our wedding was the first week in October. The budget didn't get passed on September 30 (what's new) and they had emergency sessions to attend.

But, I will tell you...maybe its because they do things differently in Canada or something and the bulk of my relatives are Canadian...I only had one RSVP that wasn't returned.

That was from my brother.

[theworm[$]]

Oh Curtis. We can relate. My parents weren't going to send it back - they said "you know we're coming". I said, I put a stamp on it - you mail it.
Brian's brother didn't RSVP. The best man didn't RSVP AND didn't show up. People are dumb.

[CurtisEdmonds]

Well, now, relatives... I have some relatives that just aren't responsible human beings, period, and expecting them to do something as simple as returning an RSVP (never mind whether it's on time or not) is just too much. They're not going to do it because they don't have the capacity. I understand this (actually, I don't understand it, but I recognize the fact that they behave like this).

But try explaining that to your bride-to-be!

[theworm[$]]

Curtis, Curtis, Curtis.
You're not supposed to try to explain it to the bride. You're supposed to say "Yes Dear. Of course, Dear."

[pippadaisy[$]]

theworm said

Oh Curtis. We can relate. My parents weren't going to send it back - they said "you know we're coming". I said, I put a stamp on it - you mail it.
Brian's brother didn't RSVP. The best man didn't RSVP AND didn't show up. People are dumb.

Believe it or not, you are actually the SECOND couple I know that's happened to!! I guess I should shut up about G's best friend showing up, getting hammered, and giving the toast as "All you need is love. Drink!"

[ms_n]

LOL. A toast from the toasted I believe. 'Tis sad indeed. The no-show best man is hard to believe, though.

[theworm[$]]

Well, in all fairness, we sort of figured out that he's not reliable and we got a better Best-Person to do the job and it was so much more right every way around.

[ms_n]

LOL Wise. Very wise.

[wivabef]

theworm said

The best man didn't RSVP AND didn't show up.

Wow! And I thought my brother-in-law was bad for booking another DJ gig during our wedding (his gift to use was to DJ our wedding). One of the bridegrooms had to run music and do the introductions until mr. MC managed to get there...and when he did...against my wishes, did the stupid "Bride cuts the cake" song AND played "Celebration" ** gack **

Things to look forward to, Curtis (you, as a laywer, should know to get EVERYTHING in writing!)

[CurtisEdmonds]

We have a very long list of songs that we gave the band leader and told him NOT to play under any circumstances. He asked us about this.

"But what if someone requests that song?" he asked.

I had a ready response. "Throw. Them. Out."

[theworm[$]]

like....The Chicken Dance?

[mjfrombuffalo[$]]

See Curtis, we could have told you ALL ABOUT this common situation had you told us you were sending out the invites.

[CurtisEdmonds]

Yeah, right. Like I'm going to do that. Next, you'll want to know what the centerpiece is like.

[theworm[$]]

How did you know??
I DO want to know what the centerpiece is like! And what color are the napkins?

[pippadaisy[$]]

My cousin's white-trash ex-wife had a point of stealing napkins from every wedding she went to so she couild coordinate for different events.

As for the DJ, it's simple: "The bride and groom specifically requested that I not play that song, so I didn't bring it with me."

[wivabef]

Or, you can have the DJ say,

"Well, alright...but, I was told that cousin Bucky over there in the pale blue tuxedo does a strip tease whenever he hears it and I'm not seeing a panty line on him."

[CurtisEdmonds]

theworm said

How did you know??
I DO want to know what the centerpiece is like! And what color are the napkins?

Not. Going. There. If I tell you THAT, then you'll want to know what the cake is like, and that'll just lead to this whole discussion.

[emeleel]

But we already know that you've got a basketweave with strawberries.

More likely we'll want to know what else you're serving. Or you could spill the beans on the groom's cake!